When I was home for Thanksgiving, a family friend started telling me about her friend who lives down in DC. She told me what a great guy he is – how smart, how sweet, and a runner! – and decided that she needed to set me up with him ASAP. And that started me thinking – was I getting set up on a blind date?
When I think of one, I think of meeting someone who I’ve never communicated with, and who I couldn’t pick out of a crowd. And it made me realize that I’ve never actually been out on an honest-to-goodness blind date .
I’ve been on the test-hang-out with a potential prom date and friends. We didn’t end up going together.
I’ve been on the I-saw-him-once-from-a-distance-and-you-know-him-so-can-you-pretty-please-set-it-up? date. That one actually worked out rather well.
But the look-for-me-I’ll-be-the-one-in-the-[fill-in-the-blank] date…well, that never happened.
I can’t say that I’m completely opposed. I trust my friends, and I assume they’d be the ones to set me up. But I also know that they wouldn’t let me go in completely blind.
Which makes me wonder – does a truly blind date still exist?
Say it is your friend setting you up. My guess is that you’ve at least seen a Facebook photo (or album) of the lady/gentleman in question. You’ve probably already either been warned about any potential shortcomings (e.g. I know he’s in his 30s, but he does still live with his parents – and doesn’t feel like moving out), or your friend has talked your ear off about how great s/he is (i.e. She’s traveled all over the world and volunteered at orphanages and is the next Mother Teresa, but fun!) (See the Thanksgiving experience above.)
Either way, you’re not totally in the dark. Which might be for the better. According to Wiki:
“Blind dating is considered by psychologists to be one of the most stressful emotional experiences, mainly due to a great lack of self-confidence from both parties and the inevitable fear of the unknown.”
Shocking. I mean, dating, in and of itself, isn’t always a piece of cake (mm…cake…); why should blind dating be any easier?
So, I’d love some other opinions:
- Do truly blind dates (aside from the TV show) really exist anymore?
- Would you allow yourself to be set up on one?
- Have you allowed yourself to be set up on one? And, if so, yay or nay?
I know it’s awfully demanding for a Friday, but please. Indulge me.