Remember that stress I was telling you about? Well, I wish I could say it had subsided, but I’d be lying.
And apparently I’m not very good at hiding it either. BNF told me this morning that my face looked like “a bundle of nerves,” which, I suppose, is technically accurate, too.
(Side note: I wish my face also showed him how excited I am. But apparently it can’t multi-task.)
I’ve found that when it comes to wedding stress, like with most things, you can divide reactions into two categories.
First, you have the traditionally supportive group. These are the friends, co-workers, and parents who ask you how you’re doing. And they accept it when you say, “Everything’s going great – I really feel okay.” But they’re also not surprised when you go on a ten minute rant about all the little things that you know no one is going to notice but you.
In fact, sometimes they tell you, “I think you needed that. You looked too calm.“
And then you have the other group, who likes to “lighten the mood.”
These are the friends and family who joke, wouldn’t it be funny if [nightmare x] happened? Or, wouldn’t it be funny if so-and-so stood up during the ceremony? I could totally see that happening!
Or, the text message I received from my younger brother (an usher for the wedding) yesterday.
“They scheduled me [at work] over the weekend i cant make it…sorry.“
Now, did I, for one second, believe that it was true? Of course not.
Do I want to smack him anyway? Maybe just a little bit.
Will it stop him from making jokes right up until the ceremony?
Not a chance.
I just hope he remembers this when it’s his turn.
*A coworker shared her favorite piece of advice: “‘Worry until Thursday,’ because after that you really can’t change much. You just have to let it happen.” So that has been my mantra.